If you're both interested, try to meet in person a soon as possible. The rules of dating have changed. That way you both can determine if you like each other, and if so can choose to continue and make the date longer if you like. X Liked this article? Set a limit on how long you'll stick to online communication.
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And, if you're out of state or out of country, try not to let more than a couple of months pass. Talk about who you are now and take the steps to heal from your past. The potential dates come knocking, and then what? The conversations that get no where? These lists are off-putting for two reasons.